I find this so interesting. In like all settings, timers are horrifying. I can't think of anything else but that timer. BUT, I thrived working in emergency and ICU hospital settings. The time pressures there are immense and I think I saw it as a driving force for improving myself and the motivation to help someone.
I needed this today! I’m learning to drive (age 43 with cptsd from a car crash as a child) having gone through 5 instructors. Anyway my test is in 2 weeks and my instructor has gone “bad cop” on me, saying I need to learn to drive under pressure and that he does it to everyone in the last month of learning. I did a mock test and passed easily. I don’t need “urgency” from him reminding my tests coming etc. I just need calm, like he has been for the last 6 months we’ve got on fine. I certainly don’t need shaming. Anyway, I could barely drive today in my lesson. I will try again to tell him that making it feel urgent just sends me into “freeze” which is useless when you’re trying to drive! Thankyou for describing why urgency doesn’t work for some so well.
What a change in approach that is! I mean, yes, driving can be quite stressful at times, but the instructor's job should be putting your mind at ease and leading with compassion and understanding.. maybe you should show him this resource!! 😉
Wishing you the best of luck with passing your test 🙏
I find this so interesting. In like all settings, timers are horrifying. I can't think of anything else but that timer. BUT, I thrived working in emergency and ICU hospital settings. The time pressures there are immense and I think I saw it as a driving force for improving myself and the motivation to help someone.
That's quite interesting - the duality based on environment and end result.
I needed this today! I’m learning to drive (age 43 with cptsd from a car crash as a child) having gone through 5 instructors. Anyway my test is in 2 weeks and my instructor has gone “bad cop” on me, saying I need to learn to drive under pressure and that he does it to everyone in the last month of learning. I did a mock test and passed easily. I don’t need “urgency” from him reminding my tests coming etc. I just need calm, like he has been for the last 6 months we’ve got on fine. I certainly don’t need shaming. Anyway, I could barely drive today in my lesson. I will try again to tell him that making it feel urgent just sends me into “freeze” which is useless when you’re trying to drive! Thankyou for describing why urgency doesn’t work for some so well.
What a change in approach that is! I mean, yes, driving can be quite stressful at times, but the instructor's job should be putting your mind at ease and leading with compassion and understanding.. maybe you should show him this resource!! 😉
Wishing you the best of luck with passing your test 🙏